novelhk Chapter 264: Sincerely Thank You for Not Marrying
Chapter 264: Sincerely Thank You for Not Marrying
"You are right to say that. But, Sister Xihe, have you ever thought about this?
These words are all meant to teach girls how to cultivate themselves and become an outstanding girl.
But it doesn't tell you how to get along with your husband or even your husband's family. It only teaches you to be filial.
But you have to know that human nature is complex and people's minds are changeable. Filial piety and kindness alone are far from enough.
These good qualities you have learned, when entrusted to the wrong person, will not only fail to help you, but will instead become an obstacle to your transformation and growth. "
Looking at these two people, Shen Ruyi became more and more confused. She could only speak more directly.
“Have you ever thought about this?
What would you do if you met a husband who had no ambition and only cared about romance, eating, drinking, whoring and gambling?
What should I do if my husband favors his concubine over his wife?
What should you do if you encounter a concubine who harms you and your children?
What should you do if your mother-in-law sets rules for you and finds fault with you every day?
What should you do if you encounter servants who are hypocritical and bully their masters?
What should you do if your sister-in-law is always trying to make trouble for you?
If you meet a husband who tells you that you are not good at this or that every day, no one will want you or love you.
He is the only one who wants you. If you are not grateful, it would be an unforgivable sin. What should you do?
What would you do if your husband or your in-laws wanted to use your dowry to support other women and children?
Have you ever thought about this? Has the book taught you this? "
Xihe and Nanxi's minds went blank after hearing this, and their faces turned visibly pale.
I never thought that there would be so many problems waiting for me after getting married.
Aren't husband and wife supposed to support each other and live in harmony?
Why are there so many problems?
Why would my mother-in-law find fault with me? Isn’t it enough that I am gentle and respectful?
There are also those who favor concubines and kill their wives. It’s scary and despairing to think about it.
Shen Ruyi looked at the two of them and fell into deep thought.
"When you two go back, think carefully about the questions I just asked. If it were you, what would you do?
After that, write down your respective ideas and we will sit together to discuss whether it is feasible or not and why we should do so.
If you don’t understand something or can’t figure it out, you can ask your aunt, grandmother, nanny, or even the teacher for help.”
The two agreed.
Lian Nanchuan fell into deep thought after hearing this. Are there so many problems in marriage life?
Our family is very harmonious. I have never seen my mother and grandmother quarrel.
As for my cousin Nanchen, I wonder where his soul is now.
Shen Ruyi deliberately asked Nan Chen loudly, "Cousin, what are you thinking about?"
Nan Chen was awakened, "I, I didn't think anything."
"Are you thinking of your ex-fiancée?"
Abscesses should be opened and the dead flesh and pus cleaned out so that new flesh can grow. It is useless to simply cover them up.
Even if the skin has healed, once there is a sore inside, it is only a matter of time before it festers and spreads.
Nan Chen saw Ruyi asked and wanted to talk to someone, so he thought for a while, organized his words, and then spoke,
"I don't have many thoughts about her. After all, we didn't have many opportunities to spend time together after we got engaged.
I just know that there is such a person who will be my wife in the future.
I have to treat her with my heart. As for the more romantic feelings between men and women, there really isn't any.
It should be more of a responsibility. During festivals, gifts and small items will be given according to etiquette.
I just can't quite understand why her family is so cruel. At that critical juncture, they canceled the engagement in a humiliating way.
If they had spoken in a normal tone, I would have understood it a little bit. It's not like our family disagrees!"
"Cousin, you should be thankful that there is no affection between you two, otherwise, it would be even more painful.
You are just sad because you didn't expect that their family has such bad character that they would take advantage of your misfortune and step on you, right?"
"Correct."
"Brother, this is a question of human nature. It is human nature to seek benefits and avoid harm.
It’s just that people with a bottom line act more openly and honestly, while people without a bottom line act more blatantly, or even despicable and vulgar.
The world is bustling with people, all because of profit; the world is in turmoil, all because of profit.
From ancient times to the present, no one has been able to escape this iron rule, including you and me.
It’s just that our upbringing has destined us to be unable to do some things.
Just because we can’t do it doesn’t mean others can’t do it.
Cousin, we must learn to let ourselves be ourselves, let others be others, let trees become trees, and let flowers become flowers.
People are different, with different family upbringings, educational backgrounds, and levels of wealth.
Because you enjoy different resources, it is destined that others cannot become you and you cannot become others.
No two leaves in the world are the same, and the same goes for people.
In this world, there are good people and bad people. There are kind people and selfish people.
It is yin and yang, complementing each other.
If there are only good people and no bad people, how do you distinguish who is a good person? How do you embody the "good" in a good person?
The good guys are all highlighted by these bad guys, and the bad guys are also picked and selected from the good guys.
Think about it, isn’t this the truth?
Moreover, how do we define good and bad, and what are the standards?
If you think about it carefully, there is no definite standard for them. They are all relative and are compared together.
What we need to learn is that after seeing all kinds of darkness and ugliness, we should still remain kind and still believe in light.
What I said may sound a bit empty, boring and pale.
This seems a bit far-fetched, so let me talk about something more practical.
I can really understand why her family broke off the engagement under the circumstances at that time. Who doesn't want their daughter to marry a good man and live a smooth life?
If your daughter were to marry into such a family, would you be happy and willing?
Just put yourself in their shoes and you will understand.
No matter what the reason is, you can't say that the other party is definitely wrong when it comes to breaking off the engagement.
All I can say is that they are not very honest and have no moral principles.
After all, they are not married yet, so there is still room for regret and the right to make new choices.
Their family members were wrong in that they flattered the powerful and bullied the weak, and took advantage of others’ misfortunes. Moreover, they were not sincere enough in breaking off the engagement, and they were not doing their job, right?
Have you ever thought that a girl who can do this before marriage at least shows that she is not kind enough and her sense of morality is not strong enough.
You should be glad that she never married you and you never took her home. If you had really married her, you should have cried.
With her character, do you think she can stand by you through thick and thin?
Or can I still be in harmony with you and love you without any doubt?
Or can it make the family harmonious, with three generations living under the same roof and living in harmony?